It’s the million-dollar question that many wonder about but never ask: How much sex is normal in a relationship?
It may sound like a topic of discussion in one of Carrie Bradshaw’s columns on “Sex and the City,” but the phrase “sexless marriage” is more normal than what many might think.
For Heather and Nathaniel Hawkins, it’s something that they struggled with as a couple for nearly 20 years.
“Every two to three months was about as much as we were sexually intimate,” said Nathaniel.
“Sexless marriages are in the millions. It’s an epidemic. There are many people sleeping alone, married and alone,” said Dr. Doug Weiss, credited with coining the term “intimacy anorexia” and founder and executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs.
Weiss, who has seen couples in sexless marriages like Heather and Nathaniel, confirmed that not physically connecting through sex can go on for weeks, months or even decades.
“I’ve had couples for 20 years sleeping in the same bed and not having sex,” Weiss told “GMA.”
Heather Hawkins said, “It was painful especially because when I would talk to my friends about it, they didn’t understand; they were complaining about how much their husbands wanted sex, so that made me feel like maybe something’s wrong with me.”
Now, Weiss and other doctors have found something new for a lack of physical intimacy in a marriage. They’re calling it “intimacy anorexia,” a disorder where one person in a relationship actively withholds emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy from their spouse or partner.
“Sexless marriages happen for several reasons. Number one, it’s intimacy anorexia, where it’s actively withholding,” said Dr. Weiss, who was the first to coin the term after seeing a distinct lack of intimacy within clients’ relationships during counseling sessions.
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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, “Partner Betrayal Trauma™”.
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